My boyfriend spends all his time selling weed. Should I leave? | Dear Mariella
Your relationship sounds unworkable and toxic, says Mariella Frostrup. Find someone you can confide in or get professional helpThe dilemma My boyfriend’s work ground to a halt as a result of the...
View ArticleMy partner wants her ex to stay over, and it makes me worry | Dear Mariella
It’s your insecurities that need attending to here, says Mariella Frostrup. Think of this visitor as an old friend and don’t police your relationshipThe dilemma I’m in a wonderful relationship with a...
View ArticleMy parents voted Ukip and break Covid rules. They really appal me | Dear...
Don’t try to change your family, says Mariella Frostrup. Loosen the ties and share ideas and inspiration with like-minded companionsThe dilemma I am 52 years old, divorced, and have two adult children...
View ArticleMy dad’s girlfriend is horrible to me, and he never puts me first | Dear...
The adults in your life are letting you down, says Mariella Frostrup. At your age it’s premature, but you need to learn not to rely on themThe dilemma My dad and his girlfriend have been together more...
View ArticleMy partner is always with Zoom mates – there’s no time for me | Mariella...
Everyone is looking for distractions in lockdown, says Mariella Frostrup. Find your own and see how the land lies when things return to normalThe dilemma Since lockdown my partner has found a wonderful...
View ArticleMy mum loves me, but doesn’t really know me | Dear Mariella
You’re frustrated about this, and you have the right to confront your mother with these emotional challenges, but to what purpose, wonders Mariella FrostrupThe dilemma I am a 50-year-old gay man. When...
View ArticleI was sexually abused at 11, but my mum won’t speak about it | Dear Mariella
Your mother won’t have forgotten the incident, says Mariella Frostrup. She’s probably paralysed by her inability to process what you enduredThe dilemma When I was 11, I was sexually abused over the...
View ArticleI worry constantly about the safety of my grown-up daughters | Dear Mariella
The dangers women face make your anxiety understandable, says Mariella Frostrup. However, you must – as we all must – keep worries to a minimum in order to live lifeThe dilemma I have four lovely...
View ArticleHe had an affair when I was at my lowest. Can I trust him again? | Dear Mariella
You’re at a major turning point in life so figure out what you want, says Mariella Frostrup. Don’t waste time digging for more dirtThe dilemma It’s the usual. He was unhappy, he didn’t feel wanted,...
View ArticleMy mum tells me too many details about my abusive dad | Dear Mariella
Your mother’s revelations are an offloading too far, says Mariella Frostrup. You will have to take the ‘adult’ position and bring it to an endThe dilemma My mother recently started going to therapy....
View ArticleMy partner says she still loves her ‘very good-looking’ ex | Dear Mariella
It sounds like she is the one with self-worth issues, says Mariella Frostrup. Tell her how this makes you feel and establish boundaries and ground rulesThe dilemma My partner of two years told me that...
View ArticleMy fiancé is trying to control me and stop me seeing my parents | Dear Mariella
These are serious warning signals about your future happiness which you should not ignore, says Mariella FrostrupThe dilemma My boyfriend and soon-to-be husband doesn’t like my parents. He is not rude...
View ArticleI am so angry with the way one friend treated another who has died | Dear...
Your friend’s death has hit you hard, says Mariella Frostrup. Don’t leap to conclusions – or insist anyone else doesThe dilemma I’ve spent the pandemic quarantining in my university house with my...
View ArticleI can’t find a partner. How can I learn to love my single life?
We don’t have to live like swans, mating for life with one partner, says Mariella Frostrup. And be of good heart, someone nice may come alongThe dilemma I am a 48-year-old single woman with a full and...
View ArticleMy beloved parents treat me as if I am still 10 years old | Dear Mariella
It’s time to break free, says Mariella Frostrup. They may be acting from the most caring of motives, but you can’t allow your family to prevent you being your best possible selfThe dilemma I am a woman...
View ArticleFarewell Mariella: ‘I wanted to say thanks’
After almost 20 years, our much-loved agony aunt is signing off. Here, our readers reveal how she’s helped themDear Mariella, I just wanted to let you know that not long after your column started I...
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