My partner will make a perfect wife – except she doesn’t want kids | Dear...
Why do you feel the need to rush into marriage when you’re not sure either, wonders Mariella FrostrupThe dilemma I’m 29 years old, child-free, and I’m about to propose to the love of my life. She is 36...
View ArticleMy sister has always bullied me. And she still makes me anxious | Dear Mariella
You are making it easy for your older sister to dominate you, Mariella Frostrup tells a woman in her 20s that she no longer needs to play by the old rulesThe dilemma My older sister and I are both in...
View ArticleMy friend’s boyfriend died and I don’t know what to say to her | Dear Mariella
You can’t take away her pain but you can provide a listening ear, Mariella Frostrup tells a woman who is worried she has nothing to offer a bereaved friendThe dilemma I’ve never been one of those women...
View ArticleI feel inadequate around my girlfriend’s wealthy, high-achieving family |...
Your problem is your own self-worth, not the privileged family you are considering marrying into, says Mariella FrostrupThe dilemma After what seems an age of online dating (five years) I met a...
View ArticleI’m 40 and chronically single. Is my unhappy childhood to blame? | Dear Mariella
You can meet a partner at any stage of life, says Mariella Frostrup. But to hold onto someone, you need to deal with your insecurities firstThe dilemma I am a 40-year-old chronically single woman. I...
View ArticleI’ve got a top degree but wash dishes – and can’t face the future | Dear...
You’re not alone, says Mariella Frostrup. Get professional help to muster resilience and determination. We need people like you to change our political trajectoryThe dilemma I graduated last summer...
View ArticleI think my dad’s girlfriend takes advantage of him. How can I get over my...
Your father has an issue with boundaries, says Mariella Frostrup. Try to mend your relationship with him firstThe dilemma I’ve always had a close relationship with my dad despite not living with him...
View ArticleMy boyfriend and I are well matched, but I just don’t fancy him | Dear Mariella
He doesn’t seem to be offering you much, so don’t just ‘make do’, says Mariella FrostrupThe dilemma I have been dating my boyfriend for three months. He is intelligent and thoughtful, sensitive and...
View ArticleI’m a newly single mother and confused about my sexuality | Mariella Frostrup
You and your ex’s roles as parents should be foremost in your mind, says Mariella Frostrup, not your sexualityThe dilemma I am 21 and I have a four-month-old son with my boyfriend of four years. We...
View ArticleI’ve left my damaging childhood behind me, but why do I feel guilty? | Dear...
You must delve into your own past, Mariella Frostrup tells a social worker who has no contact with her own familyThe dilemma I’m 28 and was born and raised in a northern mining town. I went to...
View ArticleMy rich and grumpy dad said my Christmas gifts were awful | Dear Mariella
Mariella Frostrup tells a man caught up in festive family tensions to ditch the present-giving charadeThe dilemma My father complained to my wife that the Christmas presents I bought for him and his...
View ArticleMy husband left me and our kids and is now with another woman
A new relationship will long outlive – and swiftly obscure – the heartache you’ve been through, says Mariella FrostrupThe dilemmaEighteen months ago, my husband left me and our children, who were both...
View ArticleMy partner’s teenage daughter has to be the centre of his attention | Dear...
Seventeen-year-olds are good at triggering insecurities so stop being so easily provoked, says Mariella FrostrupThe dilemma I live with my partner of five years, who I adore, and his 17-year-old...
View ArticleI was dropped by new friends and dread not seeing them again | Dear Mariella
You may have tampered with the balance of power with this couple, says Mariella Frostrup. Is there something you are not divulging?The dilemma For the past few months I have been befriended by a...
View ArticleI can’t get past my strained relationship with my mother | Dear Mariella
It’s time to leave the past behind and forge a new bond, and the first step should be yours, says Mariella FrostrupThe dilemma I don’t have a very good relationship with my mum most of the time. It...
View ArticleI’m a sensitive man, so how can I stop getting hurt in relationships? | Dear...
Your irrational behaviour probably stems from trauma – come to terms with that first, says Mariella FrostrupThe dilemma My friends think my behaviour is leading me in a vicious circle in my...
View ArticleI’ve been gripped by shame since I came out as a gay atheist | Dear Mariella
Stop intellectualising your emotions and learn to master them instead, says Mariella FrostrupThe dilemmaI’m in my early 30s and feel gripped by shame and inertia. I grew up a fundamentalist Christian...
View ArticleMy friend had sex with someone underage – but I want to stand by him | Dear...
Walking away would be understandable but in our morally hysterical times, yours is a courageous stance, says Mariella FrostrupThe dilemmaOne of my best friends from my teenage years was recently...
View ArticleA man took photos of my underwear and sniggered. I’m livid | Dear Mariella
Threaten legal action if this creep doesn’t apologise and provide evidence the photos have been deleted, says Mariella FrostrupThe dilemma Two years ago, a good friend of my husband’s invited us to his...
View ArticleMy wife and I don’t have sex, and I have secretly been buying women’s clothes
Until you test the boundaries of your desires, you’ll be perpetually dissatisfied, says Mariella FrostrupThe dilemmaI am a man in my late 50s. I am youthful and go to concerts, festivals and art...
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