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I’m American and devastated. Why did we vote for Trump? | Mariella Frostrup

One woman, scared by her country’s election result, sees no chink of light. Remember the millions, like you, trying to make the world a better place, says Mariella FrostrupThe dilemma I am American;...

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My best friend met the love of her life – and I can’t cope

A woman feels bereft because her friend has less time for her. Mariella says stamping her foot because she’s getting less attention is not the way forwardI’m 32 and struggling with unwanted changes to...

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I’m 26, a virgin and attracted to a woman twice my age

A young man is jealous his female friend of 50 has fallen in love with another man. Mariella Frostrup says it’s time he finds his own – realistic – sexual relationshipThe dilemma I am 26 years old and...

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My boyfriend cheated on me using Skype sex. Does it matter?

A woman in her 20s has discovered that her beloved partner has been having online sex with porn stars. Mariella Frostrup says she is right to worryThe dilemmaMy boyfriend and I have been together for...

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How can I get used to my partner’s low sex drive? | Mariella Frostrup

Don’t, says Mariella Frostrup. Your partner’s low libido will always make you feel unappealing. Either he must get help or you should find a better matchThe dilemma I am in my early twenties and my...

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Two lonely teenagers who just can’t seem to make friends

Loneliness is a state of mind – so stop thinking in those terms and just be yourselves. Mariella advises two teens looking for friendship and loveDilemma 1 I’m 19 and have always had a difficult time...

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Should I abandon my son to my alcoholic husband? | Mariella Frostrup

A woman, whose son protects her from her abusive husband, wonders if she should leave without a trace. Mariella Frostrup respondsThe dilemma I have been married to my alcoholic husband for 14 years. We...

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I left Iran for freedom in Europe but I’m lonely | Mariella Frostrup

An Iranian man is struggling to make friends in Germany. Mariella Frostrup says he must embrace anything and everything until he finds his feetThe dilemma I am a 30-year-old guy and I am really lonely....

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I want to leave my partner of 15 years. Am I being selfish? | Mariella Frostrup

A woman who married her longtime partner two years ago now wants to separate. Mariella Frostrup wonders why it’s taken so long to address the issues in their relationshipThe dilemma After much...

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My teen daughter is refusing a family trip with my partner

A woman is struggling to get her daughter to be more positive about her partner. Mariella Frostrup advises her not to foist a new family on the teenagerThe dilemma My partner came from Europe to live...

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My life is full of religion and education – but no men

At only 27 years old, a high-performing woman fears she is having a midlife crisis: she feels her conservative and Christian beliefs have prevented her from finding love. Mariella Frostrup encourages...

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My grandmother is lying to concoct a fantasy love life

A woman in her 70s appears to be leading a mystery double life. Mariella Frostrup advises her grandchild that she’s not really doing any harmThe dilemma Several years ago my (then) 67-year-old...

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I’m happy, so why do I fantasise about sex abuse? | Mariella Frostrup

Our imagination can be an outlet for things we wouldn’t do or condone, but craving to be controlled might be worth exploring with a therapist, says Mariella FrostrupThe Dilemma I am a woman in my early...

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My husband died. Now my daughter hates me | Mariella Frostrup

It’s common for a grieving child to deify a parent who dies and blame the surviving parent, says MariellaThe dilemma My husband and I separated. I left him because of anger issues that he couldn’t...

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My friend told me not to freeze my eggs and now I'm childless

Blaming your friend for a decision you took in the past will not solve your problem. Channel your anger into tackling your possibilities for conceptionThe dilemma At the age of 35, I was single and...

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I am a married grandmother but I feel so lonely | Mariella Frostrup

Let your family know how you feel, says Mariella. Asking for help is scary but the rewards are worth itThe dilemma I am married and a grandmother. I visit a lady in the old age home every week. There I...

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Dad left, and my aunt told me a secret about him | Mariella Frostrup

Mariella Frostrup says the information may not be news to her mother – and warns against aportioning blame as her parents’ marriage is picked overThe dilemma My father left my mum, abruptly and with no...

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My mum’s behaviour led to me being raped when I was a teen

Mariella Frostrup admires a reader’s attempts to come to terms with her past, but says she should be aware her mother may never take responsibilty for her actionsThe dilemma I am a 39-year-old mother...

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My in-laws won’t stop giving our daughter chocolate

A reader asks if they should cancel an Easter visit to the grandparents, but Mariella Frostrup suggests their child’s weight issue should not be viewed in the context of one weekendThe dilemma We were...

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I’m concerned that my children are no longer employable

Mariella Frostrup advises a mother how to stop her adult children living off the fruits of her labourThe dilemma My ex-husband and I have always encouraged our children to pursue their talents and...

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