A woman in her 30s who wants to start a family wonders whether a male friend could be more. Mariella Frostrup says sexual desire may follow
The dilemma I am a woman in my early 30s hoping at some point in the not-too-distant future to get married and raise a family. I have been single for quite a while, but recently I was surprised by my very good friend’s admission that he was “in love with” me and has been for 10 years.
I am now in a position to green-light the beginning of a relationship with a man who I am the best of friends with. Another friend, happily married to a man who similarly pined after her for many years, says I should give it a chance. The sexual attraction might come, she says, and everything else you want is already there. However, it isn’t like I haven’t thought about all this before. I see his brilliance, value his friendship, but have never wanted anything more from him. I’m inclined to follow my feelings and let him down, but should I give it a chance to see if deeper feelings follow the considered rationale?
I don’t usually advocate alcohol but imbibing something to liberate you from rational decision making could be key
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